Unfortunately, we never anticipate that anyone of us will ever have to go through it but it happens to the best of us. So I decided to share 10 ways that helped me in a lot of ways to survive my divorce.
- Mourn, give yourself time do not rush yourself. Give yourself all the time you need. Divorce is a mourning process and we all have a different process. For me it took me at least 3 yrs. Be patient, and trust me you’ll get through.
- Do not date right away, but if you do consider the other person. He/She may be ready for something that you are not. Again, if you decide to date then make it clear what your expectations are right from the beginning. Again, I do not suggest it.
- Learn to spend time alone learn to love your own company. Most of us are afraid to be alone perhaps b/c of our age, our weight our looks or just plain insecurity. Some of us could be afraid of the What-if’s, could have, and should haves. Please do not torture your self with these 3 words. Do yourself a favor Trace it, Face it and Erase it.
- Take a trip get in touch with you and you alone. If you can afford it go somewhere exotic and make it alone. Get to know you again. What makes you tick?
- Set a personal goal and make it work. For me that always felt good and boosted my self esteem. Try it.
- Take responsibility for your part. For me this was the most important part of healing and getting through it, because even if you are the lesser of both evils you will always own a part in the break up.
- Clean out your closets. I mean physically. Get rid of all of the memories of your spouse. Re-claim your home.
- Change your appearance, lose weight, join the gym, and purchase that new dress/expensive Italian made suite. This always feels good.
- Further your education or take up a hobby, after all you will have a lot more time to do things for yourself, so make the best of it.
- Go out with friends only Girls/Guys night out and reconnect with old friends.
Other Posts: How to naturally make your hair grow faster and longer